Altruistic love means giving to another simply out of compassion. Not because you think you should. Not because you feel responsible for the other person, or you wonder what someone else can do for you in the future, or because your charity will help reduce your taxable income. Altruistic love is simply for the sake of the other.
Giving to others is most precious when it is done quietly and selflessly.
Righteous indignation is like candy when you’re starving. It feels good, but it doesn’t sustain you very long.
Missing feels like a sad spot in my heart. It feels so much better than when I was angry with her, or worse, when I didn’t let myself feel anything about her. Missing means I love her.
And I have discovered that when people are kind and helpful, it makes them happy.
But only when you stop pretending you’re brave or strong do you allow people to show the kindness that’s in them.
More often, the payoff is better if you don’t pretend you feel strong when you feel weak or pretend that you are brave when you’re scared. I really believe the world might be a safer place if everyone who felt vulnerable wore flashers that said, “I have a problem and I’m doing the best I can.”
..no matter what happens to our bodies or our minds, our souls remain whole.
If you fight the right battle, in the right way, the outcome can change not only your life, but also the lives of others.
If you make the right enemies, you are living a good life.
Because if you try too hard to fix pain, it only takes longer to heal!
Healing takes place in its own way and in its own time.
After all, pain is an emotion and no emotion stays forever.
When I am in a dark tunnel, I want to be with people who love me enough to sit in the darkness with me and not stand outside telling me how to get out. I think that’s what we all want.
When you are hurt, be close to people who love you and who can tolerate your pain without passing judgment or giving you advice. As time passes, you will long less for what you had yesterday and experience more of what you have today.
When you want to find out what feels good and what pleases your partner, it’s a lot more helpful to admit ignorance than to pretend to know.
Confusion is like fertilizer, it feels like crap when it happens, but nothing grows without it.
Be ignorant. It can be the beginning of something wonderful.
When you are with someone for whom you have great affection and respect, ask how you can give and receive the greatest enjoyment. What you discover together is far more than you can learn yourself. As you learn, you will find yourself attending your partner rather than pretending with her. And when you address her needs with care, love, and patience, you will find feeling of devotion enhanced multifold. You will know the great happiness of altruistic love.
..wishing for something doesn’t mean there is a problem that needs to be fixed. It means there is an ache inside. And that simply means we’re human.
The mind that leaps is the mind that lives.
Death is no enemy of life. We would have no idea what life was about if it weren’t for death.
What you are about is more important than who you are.
The things we discover don’t stay as vivid or as conscious as they were when we first came to them. But I have faith – whether it is conscious or not, whether it is felt or not – that companionship is there.
..you must go forward in faith, and you must always be attentive to the quiet voice of your heart.
When the heart weeps for what it’s lost, the soul rejoices for what it’s gained.
So when you feel the pain of loss, please don’t grab at something to take away the pain. Just have faith that pain, like everything else, is transitional.
..it’s hurt people who are most likely to try hurting others..
Often when we look for answers, we automatically go where the light is better. But sometimes we need to go where it’s dark.
I hope you will remember what your soul needs. Not wealth, prestige, and possessions, but the adult responsibility to love someone every day a little more than you did the day before.
In the intimacy that exposure brings, there’s an amazing opportunity: a chance of being loved for who you really are.
People are lonely because there is something missing in their lives. People with wealth try to compensate by accumulating things, but it’s not lack of things that makes people lonely.
When we stop fighting against death, we are able to wake up to our lives.
I am a proud Filipina. I eat a lot but I don’t get fat. I like pasta especially lasagna. I love Korean fashion – hip, vibrant, futuristic and yet conservative. It is my frustration to play the guitar so I learned the piano. I love to travel and stroll around nature’s wonders. I wish to go to Jeju Island, Great Wall of China, Venice, London, Paris and Barcelona. I like to read, write and quote words. I think even the tiniest of children’s laughter can heal every pain and fill every corner of the heart. I like sweets – be it chocolate, candy or you. :)
